Married life, to put it bluntly, feels no different than the life my wife and I had the day before we were married, with one exception: I can’t get over saying “my wife.” The ring around my finger feels completely natural by this point, but I still marvel over the fact that I have a wife. How very, very strange.
On the bright side, too, Hanne hasn’t kicked me out yet, so married life is still somewhat agreeable with her.
The wedding itself was a lot of fun, though I was disappointed that I couldn’t get the specific beers I wanted for the reception. I would have appreciated the caterer offering me a list of what they could get, but I can’t really fault their choices in the end as none of them were disliked beers. I had very little time to enjoy the food that made up the bulk of the wedding budget, but I hear that it was all quite tasty. Afterward, Hanne and I dropped our stuff off at the hotel, changed out of our wedding attire, and met our friends and her cousins for drinks at the Hair of the Dog tasting room and later Bunk Bar, and with the exception of the rings on our fingers it felt like any other Saturday night.
Let me back up a bit, though, and mention the bachelor party that my best man organized. When one thinks of bachelor parties, one typically imagines a night of drink, debauchery, strippers, etc. One does not typically imagine an evening barhopping in a limo with one’s friends and family, and yet that is what happened for me. I was completely surprised by the level of deception that had gone into hiding the plans from me, so naturally I can never trust any of the involved parties ever again. I knew something was up when I was asked to meet my best man at the Green Dragon and saw my Dad outside. I had further suspicions when my sister arrived. When my soon-to-be father in law walked in the door I knew the game that was being played. When the rest of my friends and the limo pulled up, well, I can say I was pretty shocked.
“Andrew’s Classy Bachelor Party Pub Crawl,” as it was emblazoned on the hat I was forced to wear with my picture on it, took us from the Green Dragon to Produce Row Cafe, to Amnesia Brewing, to Saraveza, and finally, to the Horse Brass. The end of the evening is a little blurry, but in all the pictures I’ve seen I’m having a good time, and that is how I will remember it.
I kept the hat.
I have begun the plotting for the bachelor party in which I play the role of the best man in June, but I have a feeling that I won’t be able to top that.
The other big thing to happen to me in the last four months is that I changed jobs. I didn’t even have to change my office! My firm ended up merging (it’s more complicated than that, but for simplicity’s sake I’ll call it a merger) with another firm in the same building, and while most everyone moved upstairs to their new spaces, I stayed behind on the old floor because there just isn’t room for me up there. My new job responsibilities are about the same as they were before, albeit somewhat more nebulous, but since much of the IT work is done from another office I have less ultimate responsibility as before when I was more or less running things. I’m not alone down here and it’s not permanent, but I feel somewhat disconnected from the rest of the firm because I don’t see people with the same frequency as I did before. The eventual plan is to acquire the rest of the space on one of the other floors, build it out, and then move us up. Until then, I’ll enjoy my relative solitude down here and continue to use the stairs to go up to the main floors.
I have continued to run on occasion, but since I weigh more than I did when I was doing 10k twice a week and even longer on the weekends, my pace has certainly slowed a bit. I started carrying my iPhone instead of an iPod and using a nice iPhone app called Runkeeper that automatically maps out your runs using the phone’s GPS as well as records distance, pace, etc. It’s been somewhat interesting to finally get distances on some of the runs I’ve taken over the years as well as know how I’m doing as I’m running. About five years ago I ran a 10k race and got a time of ~45 minutes, giving me around a 7:30/mile pace. Not bad. Now I’m consistently around 9:40/mile, so I have definitely slowed.
I went for a run on Saturday when it was 27 degrees out. Even bundled up, it was so cold it took my toes two miles to warm up to the point in which they weren’t numb anymore.
I would certainly like to run more often, but even ignoring the dreary Portland winter weather, my new hours interfere with my running schedule. For the last five years or so, I’ve been working 37.5 hours/week, but my new position is 40 hours/week. It doesn’t sound like much of an increase, but I’ve found that extra half hour every day really made a difference in the evening if I wanted to go for a run. It creates a problem in terms of cooking, too, and I’ve had to do more planning ahead to make sure that I have stuff on hand for dinner rather than go to the store after work. It’s taken a bit of getting used to, as I always enjoyed being inspired by a recipe I would come across during the day and then cooking the dish that evening. I demand to have my instant gratification returned!
Obviously I’m leaving out months worth of insignificant crap, so if you want to be more up to date on my insignificant crap than when I sporadically put words to the screen, my Twitter feed is usually full of said crap on a much more regular basis. You can follow me and learn the instant I drink a beer and where I am when I’m drinking it, or possibly even read a 140-character-or-less treatise on the subjective opinion of whatever I may be watching on television. It’s scintillating commentary, I can assure you.
Cheers.