So yes, here I am again. As you can see, things look a bit different around here. I was having some troubles with the backend of my website, so I decided to just upgrade it to the latest version of the posting software that controls entries, archiving, layout, etc. Specifically, in the battle to prevent comment spam from coming in to my website, I accidently broke the ability to comment altogether. OK, so it wasn’t such an accident, really. I was attempting to install a plugin that would prompt you to post a different six-digit code every time you wanted to post a comment, and when I ran into trouble the plugin’s authors wasn’t exactly forthcoming with his assistance. So I ended up saying “screw it” and scrapping the whole project, but things were already broken.
So I just upgraded versions. I’ll have to redesign the front page, but this is what it looks like by default. And so here I am.
I have much to discuss, really. I haven’t been avoiding posting on my site, just otherwise preoccupied. Frankly, I’ve had a lot of other things on my mind that have filled my time and thoughts and have driven away what desire I had to sit in front of my computer and write, or surf, or whatnot.
The biggest news is that for the last month or so I’ve been seeing a wonderful woman named Erika. She and I met through craigslist, a great Internet catch-all site of classifieds, forums, apartment listings, personals, etc, and after emailing back and forth a bunch of times we met, had dinner and drinks, and sat in the restaurant chatting until they booted us out at 11 PM. Things only got better from there.
As some of you know, this has been a hard year for me. I had a good relationship that I didn’t talk much about end early in the year, and then it wasn’t long after that when my four-year on-again off-again relationship with my college girlfriend Heather came to a close under extremely bad circumstances. I’d prefer not to go into specifics, but she did some things that hurt me a great deal and fundamentally shook what I believed about her after four and a half years of her being my closest friend and someone who I’d been extremely emotionally close to for nearly that long. She and I had an…odd relationship. I think that’s the only way to describe it, really. I was trying to move it out of the odd and into the normal, and she apparently had other things in mind. So it ended up with a long period of time in which I was not very happy at all. I’d lost both my best friend and someone who I was, well, I guess there’s no real harm in saying I was in love with her and had been for a long time, and I thought the same of her, but so that sudden loss really threw me for a loop–no, a series of loops. She hurt me, I was in pain for a long time, now I’m better. I reached out to her on two separate occasions to try and set things right, back to the way I thought they should be, but I didn’t hear a peep back from her until recently when she asked if we could be friends. I politely but firmly said “No thank you.” I guess that was her way of saying “Wow, I really screwed you over.”
Then Erika and I crossed paths, and everything’s been great since then. She’s already met both my parents, and we see each other two or three times during the week and for most of the weekends, too. I’ve taken her to various McMenamins and she knows about my obsession with them–and she’s OK with it! She even likes beer. She and I have been to the Bridgeport Brewery as well as the Bridgeport Ale House (a restaurant on the other side of town), seen a movie at the Baghdad Theater, even watched “Band of Brothers” all the way through. I made her my pasta sauce. I made her my pizza. She goes and jogs with me in the exercise room of my apartment complex. We drink wine and eat cheese together. She wanted to watch Bridget Jones’ Diary and I said yes, so she came over and made crepes for me and we watched a girlie movie. We went to a party together at one of her friends’ apartments (and ran into someone who’s starting here at work in a week). We went to the Holiday Ale Festival downtown. And after all that beer, all those DVDs, and all those McMenamins, she still wants to see me time and again. What a woman! In fact, tonight I’m going over to her new apartment and she’s making dinner for me and then we’re going to watch HER copy of the extended edition of Return of the King that she picked up at 7:30 AM on Tuesday when it was released. Nothing like dinner and a four-and-a-half hour movie to end your week nicely. Then tomorrow night the two of us are meeting my sister and her best friend Jane at the Bridgeport Brewery for one last hurrah of pizza and beer there before they close it down for remodeling for much of this next year, and then back to the apartment for board games and my oh-so-special blender drinks that my college friends came to expect from me on a Friday night. I’m not just making my blender drinks, I’m hauling out all the stops and doing it right.
Yes, Dan, that means real strawberries mixed in. And two-liter bottles of ginger ale scattered around. Then I plan on putting in Moby and The Crystal Method in the CD player and it’ll be like I’m back in college again. I can’t wait!
Work is going vry well. It’s amazing what a positive outlook on things for the first time since–well, joining the firm, considering how down I was since day 1 about non-work things–can do for you. I’ve been working for the last month on a fairly large project all by myself, and it’s supposed to come to a close on January 3, but there’s no way I can see that happening. I’ve uncovered too many critical bugs that our client has to fix before they ship it, and from what I understand they have the next couple of weeks off. So right now my in-house testing is nearly complete with just a couple of things left to fix, and then the rest are all on our client’s shoulders.
I don’t think they’re shipping on January 3. Call it a hunch.
Miscellaneous things are going well, too. I recently set up both my car payments and student loans payments to be able to be paid online, so that will save me some time and effort. In fact, my car payments have dropped a solid $40 in my per-month payments since I started paying them in June or so, so I figure by this time next year they’ll want less than $100/month. By my calculations, I’ll actually pay off my car a full year before I’m scheduled to, which is a great thing. But I’m still paying rent, car payments, student loan payments, buying food, paying my cell phone bill, etc, and I have enough money left over to buy Christmas presents, some new computer stuff in the spring (RAM in January, new motherboard, CPU, case, and video card with my tax refund a bit later), and still manage to pay for dinner when I take my girlfriend out to eat or make her dinner. Not much to sock away in the retirement fund, but enough to live my life the way I want it.
So yeah, I’m pretty happy, emails from ex-girlfriends trying to atone for their past behavior notwithstanding. I thought back as far back as I could, and the last healthy, stable relationship where there wasn’t some amount of cheating, sneaking around, pretending, and full disclosure about things by both parties was back when I was in high school. High school! I’ve dated more women since then than I can count on one hand (and close to needing a third), but I just haven’t had a stable, healthy relationship for a long time. It feels good. I like being an adult and having an adult relationship. I wish I could have done this ages ago.
Anyway, it’s pretty obvious that things are going well for me. It’s even a Friday and my boss is already gone, and I’m looking forward to going home myself and getting going with my awesome weekend. Movies, beer, and blender drinks await me.
Talk to you soon.

